I’ve had questions about what a daddy would do to help a little guy regress, and although I write a lot on this blog about what I’d do to try to give a little guy a safe, trusting and caring space in which to express his little side I realize that the question is, in some ways, more specific than that.
Now, you’ll have to excuse me if I ramble a little here because this is a topic that is hard to express in words. Regression has so many different sides to it, and maybe it’s more appropriate for the dads out there to think through.
The first thing about regression is to understand that the sense of being an adult baby is different in different people.
For some, they may be primarily a diaper lover with some tendencies towards having a caretaker.
In a previous post, I mapped out the different types of adult babies and diaper lovers. These would be the boys who respond more to feelings of being under control than pure regression.
Maybe you’re the kind of boy who has always loved his diapers and doesn’t mind having a play date with someone else who feels the same way. Maybe your thoughts of being with a dad is more about having someone who provides a sense of guidance, control and authority in your life.
It’s less about being a little boy and more about the feeling of being safer maybe when you have someone you can look up to. For these guys, having a dad who babies them or treats them like a little boy is about expressing feelings between the dad and the son. Being dressed in toddler clothes might give someone a tangible way to feel the ways in which they can state their “littleness” to the older figure.
It’s less about bringing out the little guy INSIDE and more about being a little boy on the OUTSIDE so that dad can see. The fact that this will trigger feelings of being a little guy is important, however.
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Last night I was out with friends. Went for dinner, a coffee after, that kind of thing. One of my friends remarked: “You’re in a really good mood” and I just kind of smiled.
See, you do something to me. You specifically, even if we’ve never talked. You make me feel as if maybe, just maybe, people in the world really want a bit of attention and care once you strip away all the careers and cynicism, the mistakes and the grinding things that make up life.
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When an adult baby wakes up in his crib I like to think that it can be like waking from the warmth of sleep and dreams into a sense of safety and security. But there’s a time before that moment, and I’m reminded of it this morning. It’s the time when daddy is awake and his little guy is still sound asleep, paci in his mouth and curled up under his blanky.
It’s in that space just before dawn where daddy can sometimes feel alone but, if he’s lucky, can also remember his connection to something big and important and wonderful.
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It’s Saturday morning in the adult baby nursery. The light coming through the windows shows it’s a sunny morning, but it isn’t too bright – the pale blue curtains keep the room comfortably darkened. The night light doesn’t seem as strong in the day, but it still accentuates the bars of the crib and the change table.
Saturday mornings can be special times for the adult baby. Not every diaper-loving boy will need a nursery nor want one, but for those who do it’s a very special room for the baby boy. For those who have their very own room waking up in a crib can be like waking up from one dream into another.
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I sometimes get asked: what makes daddy happy? Or I’ll be talking to an adult baby or diaper lover and they’ll start quizzing me to find out what would please me. Hopefully in time they all learn that with me, in any case, the answer is simple: just be who you are.
There was a really interesting comment on one of my posts recently where WZB was talking about the different kinds of relationships for adult babies and their ‘dads’. He wrote that:
“A daddy or big bro is a strong – but more “loving” (in the standard sense) hand. Some ABDLs seem to prefer, exclusively, the soft side of things – diapers take them back to a simpler, happier time, let them relax and unwind, let them lower their defenses in a sort of passively passive manner, like what you describe (being nurtured or cuddled are great!)”
I relate to this description completely.
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I’ve started this blog to share how I think and feel about playing the dad role to an adult baby boy. The reality is, I’ve only had a few experiences with this – one was over an extended period of time with someone who started as a boyfriend first but who eventually came to like being babied and cared for. I’ve had other experiences, short-term, with diapering and elements of babying, and I’ve had some chats and discussions on-line, which always felt more like ‘role playing’ than the real thing.
(I differentiate between role playing and the ‘real thing’ because one feels like acting, and the other feels genuine, open and real. But I suppose the lines can get blurry, which might be the topic of another post.)
Recently, a connection on-line has become extremely real to me and to “Timmy”.
The issue of the ‘reality’ of online connections is really interesting as well, and is also the topic of another post – there are issues of trust, knowing if someone is telling the truth, and the decided level of distance that happens when it isn’t physical. However, many of the feelings are real and are very similar to what I experienced during a physical dad/son experience.
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You’re a baby or toddler in nice clean diapers and maybe a cute pair of short-alls. You’ve spent some quality time with daddy but now he’s left you to play a little on your own – maybe ‘baby’ time with some blocks or a coloring book, or maybe more adult time on the computer or just watching TV. Daddy’s in the other room and as you sit there you start to wonder: what’s daddy thinking? What’s he doing? Is he going to forget I’m here? Is he happy to be away from me?
Being a dad to an adult baby is exhilarating, emotional, delightful, filled with routine and ritual (or surprise and excitement), and is sometimes exhausting. But if you’ve ever wondered what dad is thinking when he’s not around, I can say that you are probably not far from his thoughts.
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