I’ve had questions about what a daddy would do to help a little guy regress, and although I write a lot on this blog about what I’d do to try to give a little guy a safe, trusting and caring space in which to express his little side I realize that the question is, in some ways, more specific than that.
Now, you’ll have to excuse me if I ramble a little here because this is a topic that is hard to express in words. Regression has so many different sides to it, and maybe it’s more appropriate for the dads out there to think through.
The first thing about regression is to understand that the sense of being an adult baby is different in different people.
For some, they may be primarily a diaper lover with some tendencies towards having a caretaker.
In a previous post, I mapped out the different types of adult babies and diaper lovers. These would be the boys who respond more to feelings of being under control than pure regression.
Maybe you’re the kind of boy who has always loved his diapers and doesn’t mind having a play date with someone else who feels the same way. Maybe your thoughts of being with a dad is more about having someone who provides a sense of guidance, control and authority in your life.
It’s less about being a little boy and more about the feeling of being safer maybe when you have someone you can look up to. For these guys, having a dad who babies them or treats them like a little boy is about expressing feelings between the dad and the son. Being dressed in toddler clothes might give someone a tangible way to feel the ways in which they can state their “littleness” to the older figure.
It’s less about bringing out the little guy INSIDE and more about being a little boy on the OUTSIDE so that dad can see. The fact that this will trigger feelings of being a little guy is important, however.
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In my last post, I wrote about the different types of daddy/adult baby experiences. One of them, the ‘huggy’ experience is all about comfort, care and babying. Now, I don’t want to leave all you toddlers and little kids out there stranded, so I’ll write more soon about experiences that include more play, adventures, and maybe even (*gasp*) training pants.
In the meantime I spent a lot of this week running back and forth to the post office to pick up parcels. Stuff that I ordered months ago seemed to arrive at the same time as things I ordered week back.
I decided to pick out a few of the things that I got in the mail this week and share them with you. I’ve chosen the stuff that feels more “huggy-like” as a way of following up on my last post.
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If you had a weekend with daddy what would it be like? If you had to capture the experience you were looking for how would you describe it?
I was thinking about this when I ran across a Web site for a nursery – a place where little guys or girls can go to be taken care of for an hour, a day or a weekend. Now, I know nothing about the place other than what I read on the Web site so this isn’t an endorsement or anything.
Their concept includes providing different ‘programs’ depending on someone’s needs and interests. For example, their “cutey” program is described like this:
This program is based on the Toddler stage. Activities are more versatile, as kids start becoming independent.
The equipment is adapted to adult-sized toddlers. Potty-training is a strong priority of this program. Food gets varied, as kids start discovering new sensations through touch, hearing, smell, sight and taste.
Tenderness and care are required to facilitate this growing period
Each of the programs includes a brief list of clothing, games and food and has an attached schedule depending on whether you were staying for an hour, a day or a weekend.
I found the list of programs somewhat inspiring. Different boys are often in different states of mind: some little guys have more ‘toddler-type’ feelings, or maybe they need more babying over a weekend.
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The first sign of spring where I’m from and people dig out their shorts, clear off the patios, and head out doors. There’s something really nice about the delayering that happens after a long winter – the bulky coats come off, the sweaters, and people look less like marshmallows and more like people.
But for the adult baby, spring time is also decision time, because as everyone else is slimming down and seeing if they can still fit into last summer’s jeans, the diaper wearer is back in a situation where the clothing they wear can lead to a tell-tale bulge, or the little white crinkly band of plastic above the waist of their jeans can often show.
For the daddy to an adult baby or diaper lover, there are big decisions related to going out with your little guy: how do you dress him? Should he be fully diapered or are Goodnites enough?
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I wish I spoke German, but this video certainly seems to give nice coverage about adult babies. And it sure looks like an awesome nursery, crib, and closet!
Now, if someone could tell me what the Web site is that sells the high chairs I’d be a happy daddy! 🙂
The adult baby boy slips into the washroom in the morning. On the toilet (because why would he need to lift the seat?) he sees his clothes for the day neatly folded: blue jeans, a shirt that looks ‘cool’ but whose stripes remind him of a toddler outfit, a pair of socks, a belt and – a training diaper.
After a hot shower he gets himself ready – teeth, hair, dressed and calls out “Daddy! I’m ready!” His dad pops in for a quick look, tossles his hair, and lifts up his shirt so he can check that the boy’s diaper sticks out just a little above the waist band of his jeans and then gives the boy a kiss on his cheek.
It’s another day of the week for the adult baby. But in case you thought that all little guys toddle off to school or work in a onesie with a pacifier clipped to it with a ribbon, then you should probably look around: there’s probably an adult baby in the office next door, but you’d never know it!
Or walk down the hallway of your nearby college to spot the AB/DLs – but you’ll probably have to listen for the tell-tale crinkle to find one!
I did a quick scan of people I know on Facebook and different forums, and there are at least a handful of AB/DLs at each major school near me, and that’s based just on people who are active online in connecting and posting about their AB/DL interests. So whether it’s school or work, your little guy probably isn’t alone, and he won’t be the ONLY one with his diapers on under his jeans.
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Maybe it’s a daddy thing but there’s something I find adorable about an adult baby with a pacifier. Now, I know not all little guys want to have a binky in their mouth, but I can’t help feeling a special warm feeling when I see a boy with his soother.
Now, I was going to say that pacifiers and thumb sucking go hand-in-hand, but there’s some bad pun in there somewhere so I’ll just say that the two seem connected.
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